In
the current world of female empowerment and gender equality, women are somehow
losing interest in the institution of marriage. It might be that in this modern
era, they have suddenly realized that there is more to their lives than
procreation and furthering of a lineage. The new-found financial and moral
independence among these new breed of women has somehow led many of them to
venture into the world of single-hood. Somehow the stifling impediments of
matrimony and the restricting life of a wife have lost its appeal. In fact many
women are opting to be single parents than to be burdened with the woes of a
married life.
With
the rise in the number of single and divorced women, is it to be believed then
that the institution of marriage is going to be extinct? It is unlikely,
because there are still many women left who believe in the sanctimony of
marriage and swears by its values. But with a look at the alarming number of
reluctant brides, it can be safe to assume that there has to be a fresh drive
towards reviving the interest of women in marriage and erase the age-old
assumptions about matrimonial duties from their minds. There are a lot of
advantages to being married and once we look beyond the fear in our minds about
the institution, we can start a new life with a positive attitude.
The
bond of companionship: We, as humans are social animals and require the company
of our fellow human beings in our lives. It might be the care and affection of
our parents, the camaraderie between siblings, the shared goodwill between
friends or the passion between lovers. In all the various stages of our lives,
we are flanked by the company of fellow human beings. Among all these
relationships and interactions, we have only one which is the longest and most
enduring. That is the relationship between two married people. That is the only
relation which has the potential of a life-long commitment, keeping the divorce
rates aside. You will not have the company of your parents for your entire
life. Friends and siblings will make a life of their own and get busy. The only
bond that you can potentially have for a lifetime is that of matrimony.
Shared
worries are always halved: We undergo a lot of worries in our lifetime and once
we become older we are reluctant to burden our parents with our problems. Even
though friends help by their support and encouragement, again we don’t like to
bother them too much. But it is a different matter with a spouse; you can share
even the minutest of your worries and the biggest of your concerns with them.
It is a moot point whether your spouse is able to help you or not, but the fact
that you have someone to share your problems with, lessens your burdens by
half.
The
romance of a life-time: Although one might loath to be tied with one particular
person for their entire lives, there is another perspective to it as well. A
person might talk about enjoying their single status with a multitude of lovers
and partners instead of being ties to one, but this is the talk of youth and
beauty. But it is another matter when you are in your middle ages without your
beauty or grace and find yourself longing for a warm body next to you, to share
the cold nights of winter. Whoever has experienced the bliss of being in love
realizes the feeling of having that person beside them forever. There is
nothing to take away the romance of a life-time that a marriage promises, if we
are wise enough to see them.
Marriage
will make you happier and healthier: Now, this is a fact which has been proven
after a lot of research and surveys. It has been found after many studies that
married people are on an average happier and as a result healthier, than their
single counterparts. Before, you start laughing at the joke, it is in fact true
that while there might be insurmountable amount of problems in a marriage, when
you are happily married, it is one of the best experiences.
The
practicalities of life: One might argue that companionship and a life-time of
romance can also be found without marriage and in a live-in relationship.
Although that is true, but in many countries, live-in relationship is not
legally recognized and even if it is, you don’t get the benefits that you get
as a married couple. There are a lot of legal and official benefits to be had
as a married person and it is a practical reason to be tied to the institution.
It saves you a lot of official and legal hassles, you can get a loan for your
house or your car more easily. Sometimes, it is even easier to rent a place if
you are married. It might seem unfair, but unfortunately, these are the rules.
So, it might be a practical reason for you to get married, which becomes easier
if you are already in a live-in relationship. After all it is just a matter of
signing some papers.
A sense of security: Although a live-in relationship is great, there are some
places where a marriage takes away the cake. You will always have a sense of
the relationship being temporary in case of a live-in together whereas marriage
gives you a sense of permanence. Although, it might seem ludicrous to some,
marriage does help a person stay faithful because of the sanctimony of the
vows. Even though there are no guarantees of a marriage staying forever, most
people enter a live-in relationship with the feeling that it is temporary. A
marriage can provide a lot of security to a woman, especially if she is not
financially independent. Just because the divorce rates are high, doesn't mean
that you should enter a married life with a fatalistic attitude.
Marriage
makes you a responsible person: You might already be a reliable and consistent
person, but if you are not, being married has a high chance of making you
become a responsible person. You will learn age-old values of compromise and
selflessness and though it might sound like a horrible idea, in reality it also
helps you know what kind of a person you really are. The more you get inside
the realms of matrimony, the closer you come to understand yourself and your
spouse.
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